How and why has divorce become so common? In my own family two of my mom’s siblings and her dad got a divorce all in the same year. That was three divorces in the span of two years, which is a lot for one family. Divorce is nothing like it was even 50 years ago because so many things have changed. Some of those changes are more people are cohabiting and because of that individuals are marrying at later ages. Marriage does not have the importance it once did which is heartbreaking to think about. I would never trade my marriage for anything on the good or bad days.
Church leaders always have inspiring thoughts and insights on the hardest of topics. I loved reading what they had to say to bring the light of Christ in the most difficult of situations. I am going to focus on marriage for a moment and reiterate what the brethren have said. We learn that marriage is ordained of God and that it is the most sacred covenant or promise we can make on this earth. The reason why members of the LDS church respect marriage more then others is because we have an eternal perspective. We are in it for the long haul and not only for the good times but the bad as well. Struggles, trials, hardships are not always detrimental in a marriage. However, some people use them as a way out. If we learn from the trials that come our way they can strengthen our marriage. Always look for learning experiences and ways to better yourself and your marriage. Elder Oaks said, “A good marriage does not require a perfect man or a perfect woman. It only requires a man and a woman committed to strive together toward perfection.” On our way to perfection there are going to be detours and they may not always be pretty. The one thing that is important to remember is always have the same goal in mind.
President Kimball has talked about how there is evil all around us that is trying to tear families apart. It is evident that if we let it into our lives Satan will do nothing but destroy us. Kimball says that only those who believe in the family are those who can protect it. How can we believe in the family if our go to option is divorce? I love what Elder Oaks counseled when he said, “I strongly urge you and those who advise you to face up to the reality that for most marriage problems, the remedy is not divorce but repentance. Often the cause is not incompatibility but selfishness. The first step is not separation but reformation. Divorce is not an all-purpose solution, and it often creates long-term heartache.” Marriage is hard and Satan wants us to focus on the difficulties of marriage. We should not focus on each partner giving 50/50 effort but instead both partners giving the full 100%. A successful, happy marriage is not something we have without effort but it is something we need to constantly be working on. Marriage is a sacred act and we need to be protecting it because it is a gift from God.
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