“It’s not me, it’s you. Actually, it’s your mom.” I saw this funny quote the other day and made me think of how the world portrays in-laws. Some people may have a hard time getting along with their mother/father in-law. I have been blessed with the best in-laws and wish everyone who struggle with theirs were as fortunate. Since I have been married, I have come to realize the importance of having a close relationship with my in-laws. Me and my husband both live states away from our parents, therefore, making it hard to see them often. I believe in that quote that says something about distance making the heart grow fonder. I feel as though I appreciate my time with my in-laws more when I see them because they live across the country. However, it is also important for me to continue to grow that relationship with them even though they do live far away. Me and my husband try to call or face time both of our parents every week on Sunday and are involved in the other conversations. I am usually not there for the whole conversation so that my husband can have some time with his parents as well. However, I feel that face timing them is a way that I am slowly continuing to build my relationship with them.
Ashely Mcilwain said, “No one should come between you and your spouse. They should come alongside of you but not between.” This quote goes for parents and family members as well. When we committed to our spouse it was only to them. Sometimes parents may want to be too involved in a newly married couples’ life. Becoming freshly married is very difficult because there is a lot of new changes happening. However, that new couple need to learn how to survive and trust in the other and not rely on others to come in between that. Living far away from our in-laws made getting married and adjusting a little more difficult. But, me and my spouse learned to become self-reliant very quickly. We have grown to trust in the other and only talk to our parents occasionally about important decisions. Because of this, they can help stir us in the right direction. They are not the stirring wheel in our relationship but are the occasional helping hand, which I am thankful for. My in-laws have never come between me and my husband but have always been on the side helping when needed. It is so important to develop a cherished relationship with your in-laws. They really do have advice that could help, they could become a true friend, and a blessing in your life if you let them.
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